It is true, gays are not all fudge packers and or the fudge. Although our community is in a constant state of sexual alertness (CODE RED). Whether you agree, or not, I’m right. What makes a man gay? Love getting his ass rammed? Rimmed? Topping? Being pig roasted? Like any other adult topic, it is not black and white, some times it is all brown and messy.
This column is about anal sex. So if you don’t like reading about such things, stop reading now.
Many years ago I lived next door to a young born-again-Christian rock singer. (He probably would dislike reading about anal sex. Glad you’re still here, though.) While Jason strongly disapproved of my gayness, he was also fascinated by it, and he constantly asked me questions.
One day I revealed to him that I had never had anal sex. His face brightened. “That’s awesome!” he shouted.
“Why, pray tell, is it awesome?” I asked.
“Because maybe you’ll try it, and then realize you don’t like it, and then you won’t be gay.”
- Anal Sex / Infection (suggestivetongue.com)
I have trouble with shirts with collars in general. I have a serious complex about looking like a preppy, some sort of mid-life crisis of sorts. Anytime I have a button on and look in the mirror, I see preppy, even if my shirt were to have skull and cross bone buttons. Sounds like a personal problem , huh? But I find my way around this if the shirt is fitted well or too small. I’ll go for a tad to small over baggy any day. Most shirts I find while thrifting are tiny, so I usually don’t have a choice. I am tragically hip.
The short sleeved shirt is still a polarizing piece. Some hate it, some love it. Us? We’re in between. Like all things menswear, it’s the way you do it that defines whether it’ll look good or not. It’s fair to say that as long as you steer clear of an awkward and puffy sleeve, you should be fine. (Opening Ceremony)
Heaven forbid, we don’t want a sissy cupcake, right? I don’t care if my cupcake is macho, mentally retarded, transsexual or a TYRANNOSAURUS. The only thing that matters is that it’s in my mouth.I thought pies were the new cupcake anyhow?
The Macho (Cupcake) Man
A former real estate lawyer whips up pretty cupcakes—for dudes
By Ryan Bradley @ businessweek.com
David Arrick became Mr. Cupcake not out of a desire to bake or an affinity for frosting but “out of anger and frustration.” It was fall 2008, and he’d lost his job as a Manhattan real estate attorney, his home in New Jersey, and a huge portion of his savings. He’d also just turned 40. At this low moment Arrick walked by a certain venerable bakery—a familiar stop on Sex and the City bus tours—in his West Village neighborhood and saw a line of women around the block. “Freaking cupcakes,” he thought. “What if I made them manly?”
- In The World Of Frilly Cupcakes, There’s a Butch Alternative (queerty.com)
- Hey manly men, have a cupcake (msnbc.msn.com)
A stitch at a time, Costello Tagliapietra are cementing themselves into fashion royalty. In some circles they are known as the ” fashion bears”, and let me add, of the world. With gay teens being bullied left and right, what’s missing are gay, real men, role models. Growing up ,my gay “role models” actually made me cringe, and were examples of men I hoped to NEVER grow up to be like. If fashion bears Costello Tagliapietra were in my sight while I was going through my growing pains, I would have seen it was possible to be all I can be.
Jeffrey Costello and Robert Tagliapietra being wrapped in lumber jack, Brawny man looks themselves, would surprise you as they send the finest, most delicate, feminine, body enhancing, gorgeous clothes down the cat walk. I give theses guys a ” Meow” for the ladies and a ” Woof” for the bears. Their clothes do not follow trends, for trends have short shelf lives, but follow “classic design”, and it is ever clear their heart and soul. Eyeballing their dresses in their Spring 2011 Collection (pictured below), my eyes get lost searching for a seam, and I go on a journey twisting and turning in the delicate fabrics and bask in the colors that which reflect rich colors of earth. Enough admiration for now ( really, I could go on and butter them up like a Thanksgiving turkey), let’s hear what the guys have to say.
Keep and eye open for the these two on April 21st, where they will launch their Uniqlo collaboration! FOR INFO CLICK
What goes on in the heads of Costello Tagliapietra:
Accidental Bear: How did such hunky, burly men start making such delicate clothing?
COSTELLO TAGLIAPIETRA: We began soon after meeting in 1994. Jeffrey had already been working on some amazing projects, and I(Robert) still in art school joined in right away. The first project we worked on together was the Madonna “Bedtime Story” video. It is a long story but after years of working on projects together including Nine Inch Nails to Bruce Springsteen we decided to create a capsule collection of hand crafted jersey dresses, an article in Vogue followed and the rest is history.
A B: I read that you were both taught by your grandmothers. While sewing did she give you some snappy, wise advice that stands with you today?
AB: I have this vision of your furry knuckles working on such fine fabrics. How hands on are you guys in the making of the garments? Are they made in the US?
C T: All of our samples are made in-house actually!
We are very process driven, having begun our careers in costume where it was sometimes easier to just get things done yourself due to time restrictions. This began to inform how we work/design. All clothes that make it to the stores however, are made at factories.
AB: I bet the models just eat you guys up. Do you temp them with doughnuts or do you put out trays of Tic-tacs for lunch?
C T: We love feeding the pretty little ladies! We had cupcakes for them all a few seasons ago! During fittings, there are always a bunch of treats available to them… and don’t kid yourself, they do eat!
A B: Trends come and go like the wind. What is the shelf life for new trends?
C T: Trends are such a different thing thanks to the internet and fast fashion. For these reasons we stay away from trends because they put an unnecessary shelf life on your designs….we would rather think of what we do as heirloom or heritage; something to cherish and buy because of an emotional connection rather than a dictation from an editorial.
A B: Have you ever thought of making men’s clothing? (For me)
C T: Of course, it has to be great though! We have been looking for the right partner, so that we can do it properly and at the right price point.
A B: The Gays, what do you think about gay fashion these days? Beard trend? Whats next baby face smooth?
C T: Fashion in general is more democratized than ever… it is impossible to spot gay from straight. The gay community especially, is embracing much more diversity than ever before. In the nineties there were really only a couple of “acceptable” ways to look, but today there are far less rules. In terms of facial hair, we are always fans of the beard as long as it is not one of those highly stylized chin strap varieties.
A B: While camping, would you rough it in a tent of get a log cabin? Frankly I see you in a log cabin, swinging an ax, but it might just be the flannels.
C T: Sure, red flannel union suits and a fire-warmed log cabin.
A B: What comes to mind when I say dingle berrys ?
C T: Strangest question ever asked.
A B: Ha ha , my speciality is randomness.
AB: Husky jeans for boys? Discuss.
C T: All of our Sybil Isabel Dorsett-like personalities run and hide at the sound of those words and the torture associated with having that label on our grammar school behinds.
A B: Are you guys “gay married”? What are your thoughts about the term civil union? Same as marriage?
C T: After seventeen plus years of living together we are waiting for it to be wholly legal before getting properly married. There is no reason we in the LGBT community have to accept anything less than any heterosexual citizen in the USA are offered.
A B: If you had a baby, which one of you would change its poopy diaper?
C T: Robert
A B: Your dresses are so feminine yet, I imagine what they would feel like on. Do you ever use plus size models on the runway? (me)
C T: We don’t believe in gimmicks like that. It can send the wrong message and make it a spectacle. We do however try to showcase different body types and races and ages in the casting each season.
A B: That makes so much sense. A few shows I have witnessed lately, were circus side shows. I expected someone to walk by yelling, ” Cotton candy, Cotton candy!”
A B: What is your stance on fur used for fashion? Can there be an ethical way to use it?
C T: Fur is beautiful and a reality in luxury goods. There are though, gorgeous fake furs out there now. Technological advances offer microfibers that are very close to the real thing! Baby alpaca is another humane alternative; the fur is only farmed from the babies who do not live through there first year. No alpaca is killed for it’s fur.
A B: It seems like most gay couples in a LTR are in an open relationship? Is that the key to a happy long-lasting LTR? Do believe in monogamy or think that it is just a heterosexual tradition?
C T: We can only speak for ourselves, we have been in a monogamous seventeen year relationship. We have friends, straight and gay, in many types of arrangements, and they are equally as happy.
A B: That is amazing. Congrats to you for every one of those 17 years.
A B: A gallon of neapolitan ice cream slips into your grocery cart. What would be the first flavor gone?
C T: Vanilla
A B: What comes to mind when I say tranny bear?
C T: John Travolta?
A B: (Ding Ding Ding, balloons drop from ceiling) hilarious answer.
A B: Have any of your models had any epic falls on the runway?
C T: Thankfully no!
A B: Are there any unconventional or unusual fabrics you like to work with?
C T: We began our career being known for our use of jersey. Recently, we have been using the company AirDye to dye our fabrics with their technology which saves upwards of 60 gallons of water per dress made!
A B: Do have any other creative outlets? Knitting? Naked yoga? Macrame? Braiding each others chest hair?
C T: Competitive eating
A B: Awesome, when we meet, we’ll have a pie eating contest! I warn you, I can shovel food down. We’re on!
A B: What does the future hold for your line? Have any surprises up your sleeves?
C T: Surprises are better when you don’t know ahead of time ;)
A B: Finally and most importantly, when I finally meet you guys in person can we have a three-way kiss?
C T: We are great huggers
A B: Awesome, I’ll take two!
I will keep an eager eye on you two from now on. I know there is an audience of yours, that gets goose bumps at the mention of your name. Until next time, Robert and Jeffrey, you make this unmanageable modern world, a much more pleasant one to look at. Much love to you and thanks for playing!