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December 17, 2010

Bug Chasers. Myth? Taboo?

by Accidental Bear

 

 

 

So, i’ve heard of the term Bug Chaser for years and thought it to be to FAR OUT to actually have any truth to it. I’ve often made humorless jokes using it as a punch line. Those  who know me personally know my crass humor. Maybe naive, but  I really thought it was ok to joke  because there couldn’t possibly be individuals out there that go out of their way to intentionally become HIV positive. Organized parties where the gift bag was HIV infection. How do you talk about such a subject without any judgment?  My first reaction is anger. I want to grab a ” Bugchaser” and scream, asking whether they would like me to put a gun to their head, because it would be less painful than going through the mental and physical pain one who is HIV goes through.

Secondly , they must have never lost anyone from complications to HIV. Or are they that out of their mind? That mentally unstable? That desperate for attention? Suicidal? During a conversation with friends the other night, the topic of Bug Chasers came up ( of course ,from me and my love of talking about taboo , awkward topics) . Half of the room laughed it off like ,” yeah right” they said. And the other half had different definitions of  what it meant to be a bug Chaser. So, I did a little research.

But I have to say, having no judgement on this topic, I cannot. I’ll work on being judemental when it come to bad haircuts, outfits and such. Don’t be afraid to talk about things taboo! Here is what I dicovered :

Wikipedia say’s

Bugchasing is a slang term for the practice of pursuing sex with HIV infected individuals in order to contract HIV. Bugchasers may seek HIV infection for a variety of reasons.

Bugchasers seek sexual partners who are HIV positive for the purpose of having unprotected sex and becoming HIV positive; giftgivers are HIV positive individuals who comply with the bugchaser’s efforts to become infected with HIV.

Writer Daniel Hill outlined a scenario where such behavior might occur:

In private sex clubs across the U.S. men gather for a chance to participate in what is called Russian Roulette. Ten men are invited, nine are HIV−, one is HIV+. The men have agreed to not speak of AIDS, nor HIV. They participate in as many unsafe sexual encounters with each other as possible, thus increasing their chances to receive “the bug.” These are the men known as ‘Bug Chasers 

What are bug parties?

Bug parties are sex parties often ranging from a few to as much as 30 people. Unsafe sex with every participant at the party is encouraged. There are several variations of bug parties. At some, there is one member of the “orgy” that is HIV positive. Only this individual and the host know his positive status. The remaining participants know that there is an infected person in the room, but do not know his identity. The participants then partake in a night usually filled with alcohol, drugs and of course unsafe sex.

In other variations of a bug party, there is one person who is not infected with HIV, however the other participants are or may be. Every one is aware of the person who disease free. The HIV negative person then allows the infected guys to have unprotected anal sex with him.

Why do people participate in bug parties?

Many psychologists theorize that participation in bug parties is actually an anxiety disorder where the non-infected individuals fear getting HIV so greatly that they would rather contract it and free themselves of the anxiety of living in fear. These parties are also seen as a sort of club for those living with HIV. Infecting a HIV negative and willing participant initiates them into their world. Some people also engage in unprotected anal sex (or barebacking) as the fear for AIDS dangerously dwindles.

The Gift” from filmmaker Louise Hogarth is a documentary about gay men who purposely contract HIV. According to Rolling Stone, one character in the film admits “I was relieved. I didn’t have to worry. Do I need to be careful — not any more.” Yet another willing 21-year-old regrets his choice. “I’ve made a terrible mistake and there’s no fixing that. There is no benefit in this and that’s what needs to be said.”

December 17, 2010

Getting Our History Out of the Closet and Putting on Display

by Accidental Bear

GLBT Logo

I’m the first to judge and ridicule our gay brothers and sisters ( let that be NYE resolution #1 : Be nicer to my gays). I applaud loudly, to those who put in the effort to get “our” history out, and to take it to gigantic proportions. The GLBT Historical Society has opened its new museum in the Castro with generous help from numerous business sponsors, individual donors and volunteers.

The GLBT Historical Society is marking its 25th anniversary by bringing a new cultural destination to San Francisco’s Castro District. Set to open in November 2010, the society’s GLBT History Museum will showcase the stories of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and their communities through dynamic exhibitions and public programs.

Stop in , take a gander. Have one less latte  and donate the money that day. Make a difference, BE PROACTIVE.  I won’t tell anyone, that you actually care. It will be our little secret.

http://www.glbthistory.org/index.html

December 17, 2010

Porn Make Over #11 “First Date”

by Accidental Bear

December 17, 2010

Pic of Day

by Accidental Bear

A special dedication to all you East Coasters out there!

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December 17, 2010

Willie Nelson Taps My Country Side

by Accidental Bear

Willie, you tap into my inner-coal miners daughter! You sang to me all my childhood. On road trips I remember lying on the bed in the back of my parents chester-molester looking van, singing along to On The Road. How innocent my ears were then. You are  my unsung hero.

Oh I know, I know ( raises hand frantically). This is my blog, and I will make up a contest ( fist pumping in air, not in a Jersey Shore way). WIN A DATE WITH Accidental Bear! All you have to do is buy US tickets to Willies show at the Fillmore. No, really, thats it, I’m easy! Tickets are pricey , but Mr Nelson is a LEGEND!!

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