Posts tagged ‘Mecca’

March 3, 2011


by Accidental Bear

After viewing the film We Were Here at the Castro Theater in the San Francisco last evening I have more love for my queer community than ever. It made me want to march out the theater, protest down market street, volunteer every spare minute I have and give long heart felt hugs to everyone in arms length. There is amazing heaps of history on the sidewalks that I walk everyday. Take a moment and smell the pavement ( ok, not literally).

Here is another way for you to taste SF’s diverse, ground breaking and LOVELY gay communities evolution, on the dance floor no less.



SPKR: An Amplified History of San Francisco’s Queer Dance Floors
Saturday March 12th, 2011 at Public Works 161 Erie St. San Francsico, CA
Music by Bobby Viteritti (Trocadero Transfer) & Steve Fabus (I-Beam)
8pm – 10pm VIP Catered Reception | 10pm – 3am Public Dance Event & Gallery Show

San Francisco, CA – the world’s gay Mecca where many counter cultures are born – has a rich history for creating legends. The city is known for late night dancing, where disc jockeys are regularly canonized into saints, and any ordinary queen can transform into drag royalty overnight. Like most social movements, it takes generations before their oral traditions and memories are committed to stone. San Francisco’s underground dance clubs of the 70s ,80s , and 90s is no exception.

SPKR will be structured to engage the community with a VIP donor’s reception, and then followed by a lavish all night dance party to benefit the GLBT Historical Society. Music will be provided by Bobby Viteritti and Steve Fabus. Guests will also be able to seamlessly travel from club to gallery space in the Public Works in-house gallery to view the never before seen artifacts and interviews curated just for the event.


SPEAKER will feature five significant venues from San Francisco’s timeline: I Beam, End Up, Trocadero Transfer, Townsend, and The Box. These parties and the personalities gravitating around them will be portrayed as a multimedia family tree – telling the tales of notorious Sunday Tea Dances, a sexually charged and libertine rave culture, and the emergence of a global authority on dance music for the present generation.

The GLBT Historical Society Archives, private donors, and newly commissioned photography will be used to weave together a concise narrative for SPEAKER. A poster and audio documentary will be produced to showcase select media from the show. After the event the show will be open for a public viewing of all media and collateral on March 12th, 13th, and 14th.

Michael Garret at the I-Beam

100% of the proceeds of this event will go directly to the Historical Society and its causes.

Bobby Viteritti at the Trocadero Transfer


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Lights and Sound | Randall Schiller Productions

Media | Bar Tab SF

Wine | Swirl in Castro

Catering | SF Delicious

December 19, 2010

Gay Epidemic: Loneliness

by Accidental Bear


What’s with all this loneliness anyhow? I mean, I get it, Where ever you go there you are. But it doesn’t mean there you are all by yourself. Almost on a daily basis I hear from one my gay friends that he is lonely, undersexed and lost. Shit, we live in San Francisco , the land of the plenty , the frickin’ gay Mecca! How is this possible? Is lonely a state of mind? I often hear, ” I like to be alone and spend time by myself.” I totally get it, but there’s a point where, I believe you are trying to convince yourself of this as a defense of a much deeper issue.

Loneliness itself is never alone. It is usually coupled with depression or anxiety. Just this past year I lost three friends to suicide. And, welcome to the future , I was informed of all via Facebook. All of these gay men were extremely handsome, professional, coupled with loving partners and what I could tell not socially inept. Were they “alone” ? So, needless to say it worries me when I hear this constant confession of feeling lonely by friends, what ever appearance they may be  giving off.

I went on a road trip last year with a good friend to get out of town and spent some quality time catching up. Admittely , I dont call him much because I figured, seeing that he knew everyone in town, is drop goregous, with job, sweet , smart ( you get it) that was he was always busy. To my surprise, he tells me, ” I never leave the house, haven’t been on a date in over a year. I think I need to go on anti-deprssants.” he confesses. Me: “WHAT!?!?. Why dont you call!?!? Him, ” Well, you’re marrried and busy with school.” Arg!

So the perception you may have of someone, I hate to say it ,but you’re probably 95% wrong! We see the shell , a mask, a face to please the people. But What is happening on a much deeper level. I for one, 95% of the time where my happy go lucky mask. And when Im told by someone how they “see me”, happy, cool, calm, collected and centered ( ohh that one always gets me) , I think to myself, ” Damn, I want to be that guy they see!”

What to do? I have handfuls of amazing friends  that can’t find a date, lonely and bored.  Do I post pics of them here with there personal info? ( HA! You wish). I suggest limiting time spent on the interweb. Don’t delete all your accounts in a rampage ( I have friends in a moment frustration say, ” FUCK! I’m deleting my Manhunt account! And my Grindr , Adam4adam, Facebook, Myspace Daddy Hunt, Bear411, Big Muscle Bear etc) I say limit yourself to one or two and spend minimal time. Join a Gay Hiking group, a Bear Movie group ( FUN! And no one will judge you for eating a large popcorn with milk duds dumped on top). Let your geek shine through if thats what you are and join a gay Science group! No matter of corky you think you are , they guy next to you at coffee shop is probably corkier. Let you green thumb shine, I know plenty of hunky gardener/ landscapers, join a garden group. Put down you iphone, ipad, let down your gaurd, open up the wall you’ve built around yourself and let someone in. I promise you’ll be thankful OR I’ll give you your money back 🙂

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